It took all evening to write this post. When I think about this new year, I can’t help but feel overwhelmed. There are a million things I want to accomplish and I never seem to have enough time. I need to change some habits, but the thought can be so overwhelming. Thinking of the long list of habits that I want to work on makes me want to just not start. But, if we can break these habits up into little pieces, it’s less overwhelming. This year, I’m focusing on two habits a month: one healthy habit, and one mother-culture habit.
*This post was updated April 2019
Approaching Habits for Ourselves
I’m so often focused on helping other people, little people, with their habits, that mine are easily overlooked. But, the truth is that if I improve my habits, they won’t pick up the bad habits in the first place. Habit training ourselves is in some ways simpler than habit training our children. There is not so much battling of the wills, unless our motivation is a problem.
For me, having a visual cue and setting up the environment for success is always helpful. For habits of health, keeping a journal can be extremely helpful. With other personal habits, having a Bible verse or quote nearby can help, or even having a jar that you add something to can help. You don’t have to link the filled jar to a personal reward, just the act of placing a paper clip or something else into the jar every time you complete the habit can be rewarding enough.
I’m choosing a healthy habit each month, because I want my children to not live off of cheese and bread and sugar like it seems they do some days. My plan is not to lose weight (I will never, ever diet in front of my children), but my plan is to show what a healthy lifestyle looks like. I am almost positive that by the end of the year, I won’t be a clean-eating, daily-exercising, super fit mama, and that is okay with me. The goal is to model healthier habits for my children.
*Note- I don’t have any qualifications to give health or fitness advice, but these are habits recommended by experts.
I feel like I’m caught in this eternal whirlwind of busyness, so I’m not even sure what the current habits look like in my home. I’m assuming I’m not terrible at all of these, but there can probably be some room for improvement. Planning habits out like this will let me be more intentional with these habits and help me learn about my own strengths and weaknesses.
Are there any habits on these lists that you want to work on this year?