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Getting Your Child Ready for Handwriting

Thinking of these areas, I've put together 10 activities that we will work on this year. 

1. Sitting on a balance ball- Core strength is one of the biggest players in handwriting. Children develop this through their many hours of play. But, if it doesn't seem to be developing naturally, I little extra help might be needed. Sitting on a balance ball helps engage your child's core muscles. For several short periods a day, take away your child's chair and replace it with a balance ball, or simply spend short intervals practicing with it. In one of my public school classrooms, children were encouraged to bring in balance balls to replace their chairs. This not only helped with core strength, but engaged their bodies so they could more easily pay attention. The whole classroom took on a gumball machine feel! 

2. Using stickers- Stickers can be used intentionally to help a child develop skills for handwriting. Peeling the sticker off of its backing can be difficult for children with fine motor skills deficiencies, so practicing this can help. Also, if you encourage your child to cross the mid-line while placing stickers on paper, you've incorporated an entirely different skill. Encourage your child to peel off the sticker with their dominate hand, and then place it on the opposite side of the paper. 

3. Play catch- Catch is a simple way to help your child develop visual tracking skills. Your child must "keep an eye on the ball" as it moves closer to them in order to make the catch. Switch it up by using a brightly colored ball, which will be more eye-catching. 

4. Tweezer pick up- Using tweezers helps develop the muscles in the hand that so often get tired while handwriting. You can have your child pick up small objects in nature, or small pom poms (for example), and then put them down while crossing their midline. When I was a child, I remember that these sorting bears were about the coolest thing ever! Your child can sort them into the different colored cups using the tweezers. 

In the classroom, it usually didn't take more than a few minutes of writing until a child started noticing their aching hand muscles! Handwriting takes stamina, and stamina requires muscles. 

5. Play-Doh- Besides being so much fun, Play-Doh also helps fine-tune your child's ability to manipulate objects in their hands, which is the most important fine motor skill they'll need for handwriting. Also, it helps strengthens their hand muscles as they knead and roll it.

Play-Doh is something that I've always loved as a pre-handicraft project for little ones. It gives them the chance to create without the pressure to make something long-lasting and beautiful. We have had several different Play-doh sets over the years, but this frozen treats set and truck set have been our favorites. Of course, individual tubs are fun on their own, and you can even make your own salt dough. I use this recipe from I Heart Naptime. 

6. Monkey Bars- My eager-to-write firstborn and my hesitant-to-do-anything-academic second born are different in many ways. But, my eager child was able to do monkey bars at a young age. My more reluctant child has not mastered this skill yet, though he is still young and has plenty of time to learn. I know that correlation is not causation, but I can't help but think there might be a connection. 

Moving across monkey bars requires core strength, hand strength, and visual tracking. I am no OT, but I personally think that being able to do monkey bars is helpful preparation for handwriting! Currently, I help hold my son as he does monkey bars, which I think must still be very helpful for him as he bears some of the weight and tracks his hands. 

7. Spray bottles- This is probably one of our favorite ways to develop hand muscles and the ability to manipulate objects in the hand! My kids love to spray natural cleaning sprays as we mop together or clean the windows. We also have a set of outdoor spray bottles that are fun in any weather, but especially summer! We spray the sidewalk, wash rocks and other natural objects, and sometimes just spray each other! Our set is similar to these. 

8. Drawing or painting on an easel- When the surface is vertical (or almost vertical!) there are many benefits regarding handwriting skills. This article goes into detail about why this is helpful, but the short list is that it allows your child to cross the midline, develops muscles in the hand and arm, and helps improve hand-eye coordination. 

9. Digging in dirt- All those hours we spend outdoors have a big purpose! Digging in dirt, a favorite of my two boys, helps little ones develop their grasp and the muscles that control it. 

10. Giant rainbow art- On a big sheet of paper, start a rainbow by drawing a big, red arc. Have your child sit in the middle, and while they stay in that spot, complete the rainbow. This allows him or her to rotate through their core, cross the midline, and even practice that pesky pencil grip. 

Skills Needed for Handwriting 

1.In-hand manipulation: I already mentioned fine motor skills and strong hand muscles in my opening words, but this is not even the technical term for the main skill needed for handwriting. Technically, it is in-hand manipulation that a child needs in order to grasp a pencil and move it around intentionally on the paper. A decline in free play has made these skills less of a given in childhood. 

2. Visual tracking: What good are in-hand manipulation skills if a child cannot visually track the lines that he or she writes on a page? Visual tracking usually begins to develop when a child is an infant. Children who are go-getters and take off on their feet without ever crawling often have trouble with this skill later on. 

3. Core strength: This skill might seem silly- don't we need core strength for almost everything we do? But I have personally witnessed children who literally can not sit up for long enough to write something meaningful, or those who seem to be sitting nicely in their chairs and suddenly fall out and onto the floor. Events like these don't just happen in Charlie Chaplin films- they happen because of a lack of core strength (and balance!) in children.  These problems are also a result of the play epidemic that has been occurring for the past few decades. 

4. Left to right, top to bottom: A child needs to know that print is read from left to right and top to bottom before learning to write. Additionally, knowing how to read before writing copious amounts of words is important. I mention this because I recently saw handwriting pages, filled with words written by a three-year-old, that the child couldn't read. I imagine that left to right, top to bottom weren't concepts this child had developed yet, as well as other skills, which were exhibited by shaky lines.

5. Crossing the midline: This skill involves moving the right hand side of the body to the left side and vice versa. It is directly related to visual tracking. It allows your child to use both portions of their body together. This skill requires both sides of the brain, so it strengthens the neural connections between the right and left hemispheres. 

I didn't include obvious skills like knowing the letters of the alphabet or letter formation. Those skills can be learned gradually through play (or through my early literacy guide!) 

Best Not To Rush Handwriting

Think of all the moving parts of handwriting: a left hand (or right!) holding the paper steady while simultaneously maintaining a strong core and forming letters correctly using the fine motor skills and handwriting muscles your child has developed through play. Phew! There is good reason to not rush these skills! 

A viral Facebook post last year showed the x-ray of the hand of a seven-year-old versus the x-ray of a very young child's hand. It is very obvious that the young child's hand has much more developing to do! Let them be little- through lots of play and exposure to good books, they will eventually be ready for handwriting!

Got an eager writer? My daughter was one of them! I wrote a post about handwriting with eager children in the early years. You can read it here.

Have you ever seen a pair of siblings play so well together that you think, "Wow, what kind children they are"? When I see little ones playing well or looking out for each other, I usually assume that they are just really exceptional kids. But my view is changing. Strong sibling relationships don't tend to just happen, they are cultivated. Now when I compliment parents on their children's bond, I'll acknowledge all the hard work that they put into achieving such peace. 

This realization hit me earlier this year. Amidst bickering and kids poking each other the second I walked out of the room, I realized there must be more that I could do to help my children get along! This is a post in progress. We haven't arrived at healthy, consistently loving sibling relationships yet, but we are trying, and I wanted to share with you what we're doing. 

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Emphasize that Family Comes First

My kids LOVE each other, they do. So to emphasize how important there love for each other is, I've started verbalizing that family comes first. When a group of kids is playing outside and someone jumps at the chance to join them, sometimes I say, "But we are having time together as a family, and family comes first." This is a value that we have modeled in the past, but haven't verbalized. 

I've also started to verbalize the idea that my children are friends as well as siblings. This reminds them to use skills that they've developed with peers, but don't necessarily use with their own siblings. 

Be Proactive

In the past, I used to say, "Stop fighting!" I bet you can guess how well that worked! I picked up the book The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene a few months ago, and it has helped our home immensely! The book taught me that some kids don't develop typical skills automatically, so saying "work it out with your brother/sister" would be an exasperating command because it requires a broad set of skills.  It's very possible a child will need to be guided through this skill-building one little problem at a time. 

Now, I address each problem one at a time, ideally not when emotions are high. Together we brainstorm a solution. I've done this with both of my children in regards to relational issues. This approach aligns so well with Charlotte Mason's method because I view each solution as a positive habit to form. 

Another way I'm being proactive is by foreseeing trouble before it begins rumbling. Two of my children in particular struggle with sharing, and I've learned to set a timer the second someone grabs a toy. The timer helps them know that their time with the toy is up. 

I'm Helping My Kids Talk Out Each Issue

If an issue does rise to the surface (let's be honest, they do more often than not!) I'm learning to talk through each struggle rather than shouting a half-hearted "no!" The sound of fighting can immediately drain my energy and my will to improve the situation, but by not addressing each situation that arises, I'm letting a learning opportunity pass me by. 

This year, I took the Sibling Relationship Lab course and this is what really caused my mindset to change. Maybe my kids have some struggles that make them butt heads often, but my own struggles, the feeling of overwhelm when they start to fight, is what keeps them bickering. 

Through the course, I've learned to address each child individually, allowing them to share their side of the story. This little step has made a big difference, because each child knows that they are being heard. I've also learned strategies for coaching them through the issues so that eventually, they will learn to be proactive on their own, even without my insistence or interference. 

Changing my perspective and realizing that sibling bonding occurs slowly over time has really helped me to view each little issue not as a failure, but as an opportunity.